My husband and I have both been traveling a lot lately, and our various travels have involved some amazing choreography so that one of us was home with our daughter at all times. We only had one close call in which my flight was canceled one morning on a day when my husband was flying out that same night, and the airline first rescheduled me for a flight the following day. I did get home that day, so it all worked out. We have friends who would step in and help in an emergency, so it wouldn't have been a disaster if I hadn't been able to get on the afternoon flight.
At an end-of-year departmental party today, two (2) different people asked me who takes care of my daughter when I'm traveling. No one ever asks my husband or me who takes care of her when he is out of town. I have written about this before, but the phenomenon never ceases to amaze me. Both times today when I was asked this question, I said "Guess" and both times the first guess was that a grandmother visits. Guess again.
I found this question irritating but not too shocking when my daughter was a baby, as perhaps the questioner was acknowledging how challenging it is for one person to take care of a baby. Now I just think it is bizarre. Do they really think a father can't take care of an elementary school-aged kid? I have friends whose husbands have never taken care of their kids alone, but I am sure these guys could do it.
9 months ago