A younger colleague reported recently that an older male scientist remarked to her that "you people" are very "self-possessed these days".
Perhaps it is a mark of our different ages (I am about 20 years older than she is) that I instantly knew that "you people" meant "women", whereas she didn't know what he meant until she asked him. She thought he just meant "young people".
I hope this older man meets so many self-possessed women (of all ages) that he stops thinking it worth a remark, even one that was kindly meant (however awkwardly expressed).
7 months ago